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Got the first date jitters? Fear not, it’s natural. First dates tend to make all of us a bit jittery. We worry about things like bad breath, body odor, and whether or not our dress makes our bottom look big.

Negative Self talk

• Should i laugh at his jokes?
• Oh, no, how do I not giggle if he says something funny?
• Does my laugh sound totally stupid?
• Maybe I should just keep my mouth shut.

We tend to expect the guys we’re heading out with to know these things already, to know we’re feeling more than a little self-conscious, especially since it is our first date together.

Building Confidence

Oddly enough, we also know confidence feels synonymous with power, and the more confident we are, the less we need to worry about all those little things that tend to make us nervous about first dates.

If we are confident about who we are, there is no need to worry about what others think about us.

In order to help build a state of confidence about yourself and out of those horrid first date fidgets, I’ve put together five short, fear busting confidence boosters you can try before your next first night out.

The Top 5 Tips For Getting Rid Of First Date Jitters …

Relax In A Sweet Scented Bath

Boost your regular hygiene regimen by putting some sweet scents in the bath and having a nice relaxing soak. Indulge in a good long soak early enough on the night of your date to give the fragrance time to soak into your skin. Your body will carry the scent throughout the date.

Stop Worrying anout Your Clothes

Rather than worrying about your clothes, pick an outfit you feel comfortable in, one that makes you feel good about yourself, and whether or not your bottom looks fat will be the last thing on your mind.

Be Yourself

Don’t try to hamper or hinder your normal state. Just be yourself. If the guy you’re with doesn’t appreciate your originality, then he’s probably not the guy for you anyway. You want a man who will love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be when you’re with him, right? So always be who you are.

Express Your Needs

Have a chat before the date. If you have particular expectations about your upcoming date, it is your responsibility to tell him what those expectations are. For example, if you feel uncomfortable around crowds and prefer to dine in a more private setting, he needs to know this before he makes reservations.

Have Fun

First dates are in no way wedding ceremonies, so you aren’t being locked into a commitment for the rest of your life based on this one night out. Remember that, and just allow yourself to have a good time. You might enjoy yourself so much you’re tempted to repeat the experience!

Unless you have hooked up from an adult sex dating website, it is probably not a good idea to kiss at the end of a first date.

First date kissing mostly involves light pecking. Don’t be pressured, and only allow these kisses once you feel comfortable enough with your date.

What Is The Right Time To Kiss?

The right time for kissing is usually during the most romantic moments of the date. When you feel that you’re close enough to your date while having fun, this could be the right time to kiss.

If you’re talking while having a quiet walk at the beach, and you notice that he’s looking directly at your eyes, this is usually another one of those right kissing moments.

Sharing moments are usually the best times to kiss on a date, especially if you’re talking about something personal.

The situation doesn’t need to be dramatic and serious to kiss. The right moment to kiss during these sharing moments is when you feel comfortable sharing your personal experiences and perceptions with your date.

At the end of the date, you can give him a light peck at the cheeks if you had fun with him on your first date after he has taken you home safe and sound.

If you had fun again on the second date, you might like to give him a friendly kiss on the lips again. Beyond this, all you need is a fertile imagination when it comes to the kissing on your succeeding dates.