How To Get Over A Broken Relationship

How To Get Over A Broken Relationship and Move On With Your Life

Introduction

Just imagine if there was a break up pill.

You could simply take a couple in the morning and forget all about the relationship which has just left you crying in the fetal position.

Unfortunately there is no break up pill which means we all have to learn how to get over someone the old fashioned way by giving it some time.

The good news is that while you are giving it some time, you can also be doing other things. These things may or may not help to speed the healing process, but at the very least they will help you find other things to occupy your thoughts instead of just thinking of the past pains of your break up.

Some of these things may sound odd or flat out wrong, but in most cases they’ve been proven to help people move on as quickly as possible.

If you’re experiencing a lot of pain, what have you got to lose?

Get Your Ex Out Of Your Life

This means that you should not communicate with them anymore.

Don’t call or text them and don’t drop by their place. You have to send them a clear signal that it’s over. This is for your own well being. If you continue to hang on to a dead relationship you will only prolong your pain.

Better to cut all ties so that you can heal more quickly.

This applies if they try to call you too.

If they were the one that broke it off, it can be pretty impossible to let the phone ring-out when you see that they are calling you, but if you do you’ll just be prolonging your own pain.

It’s unlikely that they are calling you to get back with you.

It’s far more likely that they are a little lonely and they figure you’re a sure thing so they’ll just call you up and use you to relieve their own fears and uncertainties.

Don’t allow them to use you and play around with your vulnerabilities! Let the phone ring-out!

Get Rid Of Emotional Triggers

This means to put away, or throw away anything around your house, car, or office that reminds you of your ex. No need to be neurotic here, just get rid of any items that are directly related to the relationship.

For example, you would get rid of any photos of your ex but you would not get rid of your car because the ex used to sit in the passenger side.

Again, you won’t be able to move on completely if you’re constantly being reminded of them and the good times you’ve shared. Some day you may be able to look back on this relationship and remember the good times, but for now you’ll want to forget as much as you can so you can move on.

Don’t Hook Up With Someone Else

This is a little tough, but you must understand that there’s going to be lonely times ahead. If you can gear yourself up for it you may have a little easier time getting through the lonely times when they come along.

Do not hook up with someone else to help you feel better.

Hooking up with someone else just so you can feel better is being dishonest with yourself and the other person because you will be positioning yourself to be hurt again, and you may also hurt the other person.

This is a sad thing to do indeed.

Many people seem to have the idea that because they were hurt it’s okay to go out and hurt someone else. This is actually a sign of spiritual and emotional disease which can be traced back to low self-esteem issues.

You have to be able to look at yourself in the mirror every day, and if you act like that it won’t be easy.

Just remember that the person who hurt you is gone and the next person that comes along has nothing to do with your emotional issues.

You are now responsible for your emotional pains. The event is over. The only thing causing your pain today is you choosing to re-feel the past.

Be a kind, decent human being, and if nothing else you can always know that you acted decently.

Conclusion

You are responsible for your thoughts, feelings and actions.

Responsible means that you are able to respond to any situation by choosing what to think. It’s not what happens to us, it’s how we choose to react to what happens to us.

Reading The Desiderata Poem daily will help you get your mind off your ex and move on with your life.

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