Top 3 Get A Boyfriend Tactics That Really Work

The Top 3 Get A Boyfriend Tactics That Really Work

Introduction

If you are wondering what are the best tactics to get a boyfriend, the first thing you need to do is consider what you want acually want a boyfriend for.

Is that a stupid question? I think not.

The type of guy you go for will depend on your motives. For example:

  • Do you want a boyfriend in order to esteem yourself in front of your peers?
  • Do you want a boyfriend because you are seeking a life partner?
  • Do you want a boyfriend for casual sex?
  • Do you want a boyfriend for financial gain?

Frankly, you will do things differently if you are looking for Mr. Right than you might if you were just looking for Mr. Right Now.

While I don’t recommend lowering your standards ever, you may not worry too much if you’re just looking for someone to hang out with rather than a potential long term partner.

This article assumes that you’re looking for someone that may turn into a someone special.

It’s not that these tips can’t work for a more casual boyfriend, they can and do, it’s just that you shouldn’t use anything less than these tactics if your intention is for a relationship to go the distance.

Be Yourself

We keep hearing about this over and over again, but still people find it difficult to be themselves.

The main reason for this is low self-esteem and lack of knowledge about what this really means. All we can do here is to give some examples so that you know when you are not being yourself.

What you absolutely don’t want to do is pretend you are somebody other than who you really are.

For Example:

  • Don’t say you like Chinese food if you don’t – That’s dishonest!
  • Don’t say you like Bruce Lee movies if you don’t.
  • Don’t say you like going to the drag races if you don’t.
  • Don’t say you hate a certain music genre if you really love it.

Get the idea?

One point here is that you’ll never let him get to know the real you if you aren’t acting like the real you. What’s more, there’s nothing worse than getting involved with someone for a special romantic relationship and that person turns out to be somebody else!

The other most important point here is that if you do jag this guy into a long-term relationship by being dishonest, you will be positioning yourself for unhappiness due to the fact that you will not be able to keep a the false front forever.

The secret to being yourself is totally eliminating your approval seeking nature by developing high self-esteem.

Don’t Give Too Many Compliments

If you think he has a nice suit and tie, then tell him so, but don’t hang on his every word like you just met some famous movie star. It’s one thing to be attentive it’s quite another to be an emotionally crippled cling on. Be sincere in your praise and don’t overdo it.

Just remember that you are meeting just another human – an equal. If you have high self-esteem, you will know deep down that this is true.

Contribute To The Conversation

Don’t let him do all the talking. Contribute to the conversation.

If the man is happy spending the whole night talking about himself he may be too self absorbed to ever be a good match for you anyway. If he doesn’t like to do all the talking he’ll get bored if you don’t contribute to the conversation. Learn how to give and take in a conversation so that you can each get to know the other.

An excellent way to do this is to ask questions, wait for a response, then you say something about the topic.

Conclusion

The real truth here is that there aren’t really special skills to get a boyfriend. If you want a relationship built on attraction, mutual interests, and trust (which is the best way to make sure it will last) then just follow the tips above.

A relationship built on dishonesty will eventually fail. Increasing your self-esteem will greatly reduce the need to be dishonest because you will learn to like who you really are.

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